To Forgive or Not

Trust is something that takes a long time to build, but can be broken literally in a second with infedelity.

It is earned by you and your spouse treating each other with respect, being there for each other over time. Doing your very best not to hurt the other, and thinking of the other person before yourself (at least some of the time). Both partners have to watch their interactions with the opposite sex outside of the relationship. There shouldn't be any flirting or things of that nature.

Now if your husband has cheated in the marraige. You have to ask yourself if you can get over this? Be honest. Here's the big question. Can you forgive?" Remember that you are not perfect and their might be a time when you may need forgiveness as well. If you choose to forgive him you need to forgive and let it go. Do not throw it in his face every chance you get especially in the heat of an argument. If he is commited to being honest about all his feelings as to why he strayed in the first place this will help your relationship in the future. Whatever you do, don't blame yourself. No matter how difficult a relationship becomes, that does not justify one to cheat on their partner. Men are not perfect and need a strong woman to stand by them. Now to forgive means you will not check pant pockets, check text messages, and cell phones. You have to be truly willing to give him that trust once again. If he breaks it a second time he probably has an addiction to cheating and should seek counseling immediately. What would you do if your spouse cheated on you?